a good fren of mine got hitched on the 4th day of raya. unfortunately, because it was raya, i was no where in kl and the reception was held back in her home town in BP, and the following weekend where the reception on the man's side was held, i had my asthma attack. excuse, excuse...yes, but i really wish i got to see her on her wedding day. never mind that. i managed to keep in touch with her a few days ago and since i've been wanting to buy her a wedding gift, i tot i should ask her wat she'd want, more importantly need, and so i did. tis morning i check my inbox and i'm glad that she being a good fren was being truthful - she needs a rice cooker. one burden lifted off my head because my mate and i have been cracking our heads trying to figure out the best thing we could get for her. we didnt wana buy something she already got because it'd end up in the store room, and we also didnt wana buy her something she doesn't need because she'd keep it for someone else's wedding, and most of all, we wanted it to be something that could contribute to their daily life as husband and wife.

good frens can actually ask this kind of question, put aside the element of suprise of the gift. im a strong believer of practicality. normally, guests attending weddings would give electrical items ranging from microwave to iron, or china/stoneware and cutlery set, as well as decorative items. the thing is, sometimes the newly weds would receive two of the same kind. i've heard that in certain countries they practice giving a list of items the couple need (you inform your guests of this) and choose a departmental store where they could buy the stuffs so everytime an item is bought by somebody, it'd be taken off the list. at the end of the day, you end up with different essentials. i would agree to something like dat but its not acceptable by our (or my) culture to actually ask for anything from anybody. but, it all comes down to practicality...